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“I embraced my thirties crisis – here’s why you should, too”

Written by Jenni Shaw

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Everyone has heard of the mid-life crisis … you know, when your dad goes a bit crazy and trades in his trusty Ford Focus for a Maserati (or a VW Camper Van named Scarlett in my dad’s case).

There is, however, a newer phenomenon which is becoming more and more prevalent: step forward the lesser-known “Thrisis” – the thirties crisis.

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Turning 30 was, for me, pretty awesome. I jacked in my high-pressured corporate job and googled “luxury travelling for 30-year-olds”.

Sooner than I could really think about the implications of entering a new decade, I was on a plane to Vietnam, about to embark on my first Flash Pack adventure.

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It is a ridiculous cliché of which I am oh-so painfully aware but that trip literally changed my life.

Sitting on top of an ancient temple watching the sun set over Cambodia, I realised that this was what life was about; awesome experiences, seeing the world, meeting new people, learning about other cultures and just really enjoying myself.

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I made a promise to myself that from now on I was going to be a new, upgraded version of Jenni.

I was going to be more accepting and tolerant of things.

I was going to take time to enjoy every part of life and really appreciate the amazing people that I am so lucky to have in my life.

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I feel like my own personal Thrisis – that moment of ephiphany – was a fabulously positive experience. And I can quite honestly say that my so far, my thirties have been utterly brilliant.

However, I do realise that for some, this can be a trying time.

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The start of a new decade comes with a pressure to sit back and assess your life.

Have you achieved everything you thought you would by this age?  What are your goals going to be for the next chapter?  Are you wasting your life and letting it pass you by without making the most of it?

There is a lot of pressure from society and the media for us to be absolutely sorted and together by the time we reach the ripe old age of 30.

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But there are a growing number of us bucking that trend and showing society that we are nailing life – even without knowing all the answers. Babies and marriages aren’t the only way forward here.

We are, after all, living longer than ever before.

So it makes sense that we now tread different paths to those followed by our parents or grandparents, when they faced similar milestones.

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Yes, my mum (above) had three kids by the time she was my age but had she travelled the world?

Did she own a flat in central London?

Had she experienced any of the life-enhancing experiences that I am lucky enough to have had?

I’m guessing that the answer is no (feel free to argue this point if you read this, mum!)

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Also, it didn’t take me long to realise that my thirties – while replete with opportunity for adventure – strikes a perfect balance between new horizons and a lasting contentment.

Our awesome co-founder and my lovely boss, Radha (below) regularly gets into a good deep and meaningful about how our twenties were the heady days of staying out all night and doing a full day’s work fuelled by a drip-feed of caffeine.

We were able to be completely self-centred (see previous post about selfish versus self-centred) and really discover who we were and who we wanted to be; something that sets us up perfectly for our thirties.

We tried, we failed, we made the big mistakes.

Now that hitting our thirties is no longer necessarily a marker for settling down and having kids, we can continue rolling on that carefree twenties vibe – but minus the crazy emotional rollercoaster of our earlier years.

And when you come face-to-face with your own Thrisis, you too will realise this clearly.

The word Thrisis comes with negative connotations but my experience is that it can be quite the opposite.

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It is an opportunity to have a good look at yourself and really decide what it is that you want, in order to be the best version of yourself.

Once you have this nailed – trust me, the good things will just start flooding in…

Images: Jenni Shaw and Flash Pack


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